Does it ever feel like nobody respects you, and nobody takes you seriously? Maybe people interrupt you when you’re talking or laugh at your ideas. Guess what? You’re a people-pleaser. That is someone who wants to be liked, and is willing to hide their thoughts or feelings for fear of not being liked. It’s true – people who are respected are not always liked by everyone. But they are respected. And admired. People listen to what they have to say. And they know how to get respect.
The good news is that you don’t have to give up your popularity to be respected. You can enhance your popularity by being true to yourself, in fact. So if you want to know how to turn it all and be respected by people right now, pay attention because you’re about to find out how to get respect.
The key is self-honesty. It’s honesty, but not about hurting people’s feelings for no reason, it’s about being true to yourself and giving honest answers to how you feel about things.
You might feel like you have to “say the right thing” or BS people to avoid conflict. It’s understandable, and you’ve probably made a lot of friends this way, but it might be time to try on a different hat.
Next time you’re asked a question about something, try answering honestly. Maybe you secretly hate a politician that all your friends adore. Or you really like a TV show and you know your friends will make fun of you for it. Take these opportunities to express how you really feel.
It feels effing great.
And while it may make for an uncomfortable moment, in time you will be the respected one of the group. People might not agree with you but they will want to be just like you.
Try out self-honesty next time you have the opportunity. It will change your life!